What is about films like Rab ne Bana di Jodi, Namastey London and the like? What is this craving of a common guy taming the flaming, vivacious girl, and bringing her to "her senses" at the end of the movie? Why this blatant attempt to seek a totally opposite character and bend her completely to your way of living and thinking - in the name of the virtue of upholding the so called traditional values? Is it the fantasy of the average, introvert man that aims at possessing and 'reforming' her, albeit with a loads of melodrama of sacrificing love? And why are they such big hits?
Why does a vivacious,, energetic, educated, modern girl need to be taught a lesson? Why is the oily, rustic, not so socially skilled man the better human being and a more versatile, dynamic and socially adaptable girl the not so good one? What are these flights of fantasy (or should I more aptly state it as fantasizing?) of the male ego? Is it really possible to make a success of this union?
Whenever there is a discussion on women, tempers invariably run high - and very predictably turn into stereotyping the more 'visible' outspoken woman. Why do I hear of most women in senior positions referred to as dominant or arrogant? (The other extreme is dumb female!). Is she really so or perceived as a shield against man's own insecurity?
Why is it that a man can live comfortably and happily with a not so smart wife, while the same is not true vice versa? No answers, only questions. We probably still need many more years before emotional maturity can be evident. Or will it ever?
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I do agree that there has always been such cases but then the insecurity among men is inevitable.
He is feeling threatened and protecting his position is just a defense mechanism on his part. Something was done without his consent and by the sect who he thinks must take his consent before doing anything.
Now I am not taking sides here as I myself am against the "social" representation of the Indian woman but I believe you misinterpreted the movies.(Nope. i am not an SRK fan ;-) ). In that Rab ne bana... no where it's shown that the man hated or disliked the vivaciousness of the girl. If I remember, he actually fell in love with it and ended up trying to change himself so that she would accept him.
Things are changing. The Indian Woman is realising her potentials and is more demanding now. She will not or I shall say, never, is going to take things lying down.
I give you now quite a funny but apt example of this. You know that the number of gyms and health centers have virtually boomed and the race for an attractive body among men has almost taken to frightening heights?Simple. Now the woman needs options,;she "prefers" and she demands. She will not anything in less or mediocrity. And that now is showing its effects in the social strata and also the relationships.It's not the men who rule the "bonds" now but the women.Just an observation.I do not know how apt is this example but I thought it in some way it shows the shift.
Anyways, please do not mind. i am just expressing my views here.
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So true Maam..And straight from the heart :)
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